Amy and I have a lot of events coming up this year. Graduation, ordination (God willing) and a wedding...lots of things to which we're inviting friends and family. Of course, with three events in one year we hardly expect everyone to come to everything. Heck, I don't expect my entire family to come to any of it. It's another country and all that, and I have rather a lot of cousins who live quite far off.

So how does one put that into an invitation without it sounding like you don't really want the person there, or really don't care one way or another? I mean, we'd like to have all our family and friends present for our wedding, but we understand that it's a bit of a stretch to expect. Tickets and hotel rooms and whatnot are all quite pricey...Toronto isn't cheap, nor is it a day-trip from Milwaukee.

All of this is complicated by the fact that by the first of May we'll be living in Oakville, a city in which none of the events take place. So we won't be as handy to show people around or have people visit, etc.

The schedule, if all goes according to plan...

May 8, 8pm - Graduation at Trinity College, Toronto. Really a rather cool event...much of it in Latin, all the fancy academic robes, etc. I only get a few tickets for this one, though rumour has it that nobody bothers to check. People interested in what I've been up to for the past three years might want to come to this, as I can show people around the college and whatnot.

May 27, 4pm - Ordination to the diaconate (God willing) at Christ's Church Cathedral, Hamilton. Obviously a huge event for me, and for Amy. This one has no limit (the cathedral is huge) so if you know me (even just via blogs) come on down!

October 6 - Our wedding, at Trinity College Chapel. This is the most important event for us, but also the most personal. We're inviting more people than we figure will come...see the above on the subject of distance, cost of flight and hotels, etc. This is the one for which we really want to assure everyone - while we'd love to see the whole family, don't worry if it can't happen.

Part of the reason we're not all crazy that everyone be at the wedding rests on our understanding of what the event is. It's not a big party; it's a ceremony of the church to mark our mutual commitment to one another. As such, the wedding isn't really the point...the marriage is the point. While we'd love to have family and friends present to witness the sealing of that commitment, we won't be overly concerned if people can't be at the wedding because we're sure they'll be there for the marriage. Does that make sense?

Anyhow, if you can think of a concise way to say that in one sentence, suitable for a wedding invitation, please let me know!

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